affirmations for when you feel unlovable
Feeling unlovable is a feeling that is rooted in past trauma and insecurities.
It feels impossible to imagine those who love you in the moment, and it’s tough to remind yourself of the positive relationships you have currently.
I’ve been impacted by feelings of unrequited love and romantic hopelessness, so I know how paralyzing and difficult to manage it is.
It feels like there’s some qualities about yourself that are “wrong” or “unattractive.” It’s impossible to hear people say that the right person will come unexpectedly, or that your true love is out there.
But what I’ve learned is that other people’s words mean little when I feel unlovable. I need to feel loved and see it myself, even if it comes from within or from friends and family.
When you’re feeling unlovable, use these affirmations to remind you of your worth and that you are lovable:
when you feel unlovable
I’m worthy of love even when I doubt it.
I’m allowed to be a work in progress and still be chosen.
I don’t have to earn love through perfection.
I am enough even on the days I feel distant from myself.
love doesn’t skip me just because I’m struggling.
my heart is still deserving even if it’s tired.
I’m not too much or too little.
I’m allowed to receive love without shrinking.
I’m becoming someone who knows their own worth.
love can meet me where I am.
I can want to feel wanted.
I deserve people who choose me with intention.
there is nothing wrong with needing connection.
the right people won’t make me question my value.
I am lovable exactly as I am.
when you feel insecure in relationships
I am worthy of steady love.
I can communicate without fear.
I’m allowed to ask for what I need.
my feelings matter even when they’re messy.
I don’t have to chase anyone to be valued.
I can trust myself to choose better.
I’m not difficult for having boundaries.
I deserve consistency not confusion.
I can walk away from what hurts.
I’m allowed to want love that feels safe.
I can unlearn old patterns.
I deserve someone who shows up.
I don’t have to prove my worth to be kept.
the right person will understand me.
I can release relationships that drain me.
I choose people who choose me back.
I’m allowed to grow without guilt.
I can trust myself with my own heart.
I’m worthy of love that doesn’t make me doubt myself.
when your self esteem is low
I’m learning to be kinder with the way I speak to myself.
I don’t have to compare myself to anyone.
I don’t have to be confident every day to be valuable.
I choose self compassion over self criticism.
I’m proud of myself for trying.
my identity isn’t defined by my worst moments.
I can rebuild my confidence from where I am.
I’m stronger than I was before.
I’m allowed to learn without shaming myself.
I’m enough without external approval.
I choose to be gentle with myself.
when you feel abandoned or alone
I’m learning to be there for myself in deeper ways.
I am not forgotten.
the absence of others doesn’t mean I’m unworthy.
I can hold myself through hard moments.
I’m allowed to feel lonely without judging myself.
I deserve genuine connection.
I can outgrow people and still be lovable.
I’m learning to trust that better people exist.
I can comfort myself without shutting down.
I’m allowed to release those who hurt me.
I’m safe even when I feel alone.
I’m allowed to grieve the love I didn’t receive.
my solitude doesn’t define my worth.
I deserve care in every season.
I’m learning to choose myself first.
