• Am I enjoying the dynamic of the relationship, or am I waiting for it to become something else?

• What am I afraid will happen if I walk away?

Receiving mixed signals when you’re dating someone can leave you confused and stressed out. 

Who wants to be with someone who wants them one day, then changes their mind the next.

Feeling expensive doesn’t always have to do with how much money you splurge. It’s a feeling, and it has everything to do with how you choose to show up for yourself in the little ways. 

It doesn’t feel good to be in a constant state of stress and tension. It feels like you’re constantly in fight or flight mode, or you’re always worried or overthinking the next thing. 

Your self esteem is an important determinant for how you view yourself. It’s a gateway to self confidence and self respect. 

Fill a box with a bunch of self care goodies for you to enjoy on International Self Care Day.

You can include bath bombs, tea packets, comfy socks, your favorite film, new pens to journal with, a gift card to your favorite cafe or restaurant, etc.

Let yourself enjoy the process of getting accustomed to something. It’s nice to find out you’re instantly great at something.

But think about all the times you grew to be good at something, or started to really like something that you weren’t the best at in the beginning. 

You’re not a task that immediately needs to be done. You’re not a daily assignment in school. You’re not a presentation you have to prepare for work.

Your life is not something that’s going to be graded based on how successful you were, or how put together you looked.  

• someone else's silence does not define your worth.

• you deserve conversations, not disappearing acts.

With having high standards, things may come to you a little slower, but the right thing will be worth it, and it’ll feel better knowing what it took to get what you wanted. 

Ghosting is so cruel because you’re rejecting someone without an explanation and leaving them anxious about when or if you’ll respond. 

It leaves people wondering what they said or did wrong, when it’s more likely than not the ghoster with all the problems. 

• just a girl and her favorite season

• the vibe is booked and busy

• pretty girls love summer

Losing a friend, or being rejected from the potential of a friendship, can hurt more than a romantic rejection because there is less of a formal closure or “breakup,” you’ve often established a deeper connection that’s lasted years and it takes aim at personality insecurities versus attraction. 

A solo pool or beach trip sounds immaculate when it’s hot outside, and you’re looking for something to do. You can pack all your favorite snacks and drinks. You can wear a cute swimsuit and take some selfies.

Friendships shouldn’t be a game, and it shouldn’t feel like a code you have to crack.

You shouldn’t have to play the role of always the one reaching out, and you should evaluate if this person is someone worth continuing a friendship with. 

Sometimes the healthiest thing you can do is decenter the why. Why aren’t they so into you that they treat you like a princess and foster a relationship? I have no idea. But forget their reasonings and focus on what you do deserve. 

• Worrying less does not mean I care less.

• I can return to myself whenever anxiety pulls me away.