Receiving male attention is nice validation, but don’t let it influence your decisions or mindset. And it absolutely shouldn't determine your self worth and value.  

Allow your mental health to dictate your day. Do things that feel comfortable and manageable. Try dedicating the day to self care and improving your health.

• What does intentional rest mean to me?

• How can I plan rest into my schedule without guilt?

• What kind of rest do I crave most right now: physical, emotional, or spiritual?

Being ambitious and successful involves rest when you feel burnout or overwhelmed.

Having it all involves taking breaks and focusing on self love and care. 

Journal your response to the negative self talk.

If you’re calling yourself mean names and criticizing yourself, think of examples that prove those things aren’t true. 

What happens when you start loving yourself is it starts to become blindingly clear that this relationship was not right for you.

Learning to love yourself is not easy, especially after a heartbreak, but it’s so rewarding to get to a place where you’re so abundantly in love with yourself.

• Which situations trigger my perfectionist tendencies the most?

• What memories shaped my idea that I need to be flawless?

• What do I fear will happen if I’m not perfect?

I love the feeling of completing a task or project that ends up turning out well. Even more than that, I love the praise and acknowledgement that sometimes comes with performing well at work. 

To rebuild self trust after letting yourself down, focus on self discipline, setting stronger boundaries, being honest with yourself in the process, while demonstrating self awareness and positive actions.

What thoughts keep replaying in my mind?

How can I interrupt a thought spiral with a grounding method?

What outcome am I afraid of, and how can I prepare calmly instead?

To combat my insecurities and the pain they’ve caused, I rely on gentle coping strategies to help me navigate and deal with some of my insecurities. 

Insecurities can come in many different forms, and I want you to be able to recognize and call them out when they pop up.

If you’ve reached a new milestone in your goals, landed a cool opportunity, received recognition for something you did, or any other recent accomplishment, take the time to celebrate that!

Writing letters I’ll never send to someone I have a lot of unresolved feelings with releases pent-up emotions and allows me to see my healing and growth.

If you’re scared of being mean while implementing boundaries, workshop what you want to say, remind yourself of your reasons, and embrace assertiveness when necessary.

When it comes to how to stop loathing yourself, you need to make sure you forgive yourself for the mistakes, embrace your past self because it’s a part of you and trust that you’ve outgrown your past. 

Self love is an appreciation of who you truly are. It involves knowing your worth and value, while treating yourself with kindness and empathy.