If you think you like someone way more than they like you, learn how to detach, decenter, communicate effectively and focus on yourself with these tips.

If you’re single on Valentine’s Day, you can romanticize the day and focus on self love by writing yourself a love letter, going on a solo date or buying chocolate and flowers.

• I am my own favorite valentine.

• I get to romanticize my life today.

• I deserve to give myself flowers, treats and softness.

Honor your personal relationship this Valentine’s Day by incorporating self love, partaking in activities to make you feel special and spending the month with your friends and loved ones.  

Dry January can be successful by trying alcohol alternatives, informing people you’re participating in a no-alcohol month and creating a tracking or reward system.

Reaching out doesn’t erase the progress I’ve already made. I can return to no contact at any moment, and that choice is still available to me.

“And they can’t understand, what hurts more – missing the other person, or pretending not to.” ― Khadija Rupa

Healing looks different for everyone. For me, I know I’m healing when I think about them less and become unbothered by not hearing from them.

For some people, it’s being able to pick back up with their hobbies or listening to a breakup song without crying. 

Choose what you think is best for you, whether it’s isolating and allowing yourself to feel every moment, or whether it’s being surrounded by friends and loved ones who can help you get through every moment.

Take it minute by minute until you can take it hour by hour. And maybe at some point, you can start taking it day by day.

Detachment helps you get over someone and process the loss. Detach easily by cutting off communication, limiting fantasies and false hope, knowing your worth and incentivizing your growth.

I felt like my world was ending, and I didn’t see how I could move on. I was in so much denial. I couldn’t believe this was happening. I didn’t want to believe this was happening. Part of me still doesn’t believe it happened. 

• I choose peace, even when my ego wants answers.

• I exit quietly when effort declines.

• My nervous system deserves rest.

• How did I learn what love looks like, and how has that shaped how I treat myself?

• What do I think self love should actually look like?

• What does choosing myself look like in small, everyday moments?

Everything sucks right now, but if there’s one thing I know about myself, it’s that I will heal from this. I will move on, and it’s that promise to myself that allows me to process the awful breakup. 

• He chose to walk out of my life, and I do not chase someone who chose to leave.

• I deserve someone who is sure about me, not someone I have to convince.

Some people aren’t the type to lean on their friends and family in crises, and we need to stop making people feel like that’s the only way to deal with a breakup. 

I wanted him to choose me. I wanted him to let me in and trust me to know what he’s struggling with.

“You’re not behind in life. There’s no schedule or timetable that we all must follow. It’s all made up. Wherever you are right now is exactly where you need to be.”

― Emily Maroutian