practicing self love on valentine’s day
I’ve never celebrated Valentine’s Day with a man. Every year that passes reminds me that I’ve been single and without romantic love in my life.
But it’s not a sad or lonely feeling. It’s a time to reflect on the relationships in my life and what love I want to allow going into the next year.
While I may have never experienced a Valentine’s Day filled with romantic love, I have spent it focused on self love and shown an appreciation for all the things I’ve been able to do for myself to honor my own personal relationship.
I also have many great friendships I like to honor during the time through Galentine’s Day and other sweet activities with my loved ones.
Growing up, my parents would also give me little gifts and flowers to make me feel loved, despite not having any romantic relationships in my teens.
February doesn’t have to be so focused on romantic love, and it definitely shouldn’t be a time where we feel bad for ourselves and others for lacking a partner.
Honor your personal relationship this Valentine’s Day by incorporating self love, partaking in activities to make you feel special and spending the month with your friends and loved ones.
“Being single used to mean that nobody wanted you. Now it means you’re pretty sexy and you’re taking your time deciding how you want your life to be and who you want to spend it with.”
make it a special day filled with self love.
We all have a vision of the perfect Valentine’s Day. Maybe it includes roses, a nice dinner date, or a nice present. Or maybe it’s a night in with your favorite snacks, or a romcom marathon with wine.
During this month, remember there’s nothing stopping you from providing those specialities to yourself.
Buy yourself some nice flowers. Get dressed up, and maybe take some pictures. Take yourself out for a nice meal, order yummy takeout or have a romantic cooking session with yourself.
And don’t forget to get yourself a gift to celebrate your self love journey and the relationship you’ve had with yourself over the past year.
Dream up your perfect Valentine’s Day down to the smallest details. Whatever you envision for the perfect Valentine’s Day, make sure to provide a beautiful experience for yourself because you deserve that and more.
You don’t have to wait for another person to fulfill your dream Valentine’s Day. Stop waiting for someone to be the person to make you experience nice things and romantic evenings. Romanticize your own life, and turn your day into something that’s beautiful to you.
If you need some inspiration for more specific self care activities to do this Valentine’s Day, click here!
spending it alone is better than spending it unhappy.
Romantic love is something we all crave. It’s fun and amazing to be in love, but it’s heartbreaking to be hurt or chasing love that doesn’t choose you back.
I’ve had men who I’ve casually dated around Valentine’s Day, who haven’t wanted to plan anything or take me out for the special day. Personally, this hurts more than not having a man at all in your life around Valentine’s Day.
The day of love should be spent honoring real, mutual love. I promise spending the day by yourself is better than spending it with a partner who disrespects, cheats, lies, dislikes, etc. you.
You should protect your peace during every holiday, but especially during a holiday that promotes love. I spent this last Thanksgiving and Christmas alone, and it was so peaceful to do things I like and not worry about putting on a performance for other people.
When you’re feeling doubtful about a solo Valentine’s Day, remember all the things you can do to make yourself happy instead of giving someone else the power to ruin your day.
No one wants to spend the day crying or wishing it had gone differently. No one wants to feel sad, lonely and disappointed, while spending the day with someone who didn’t make the day special.
You have the power to make it a memorable, amazing day for yourself. Think of it as another opportunity to treat yourself this year. We just started 2026, so it’s a great opportunity to kick things off on a great foot with self love.
