four signs you’re healing from heartbreak

Healing looks different for everyone. For me, I know I’m healing when I think about them less and become unbothered by not hearing from them.

For some people, it’s being able to pick back up with their hobbies or listening to a breakup song without crying. 

Sometimes you won’t be able to tell you’re healing, and you’ll psych yourself out thinking you’re stuck in the same place you started at. It’s helpful to have those reminders that you’re doing well and healing at your own pace. 

The moment you realize you’re moving on is so magical because we all hope and pray to get to that point when we first feel heartbreak or real pain. 

When you’re in the process of healing, you may notice a few quiet signs of your growth, such as picking back up with hobbies and being less bothered by triggers. 

less bothered by triggers

In the middle of healing, everything reminds me of him, and I despise everything because of that. Music. Cars. Restaurants. Movies and shows. Streets. Strangers holding hands. Cologne. Everything.

Sometimes I don’t want to leave the house because I don’t want to get triggered. I’ll only go to places and eat food that don’t remind me of him. It’s a challenging experience and tough to navigate. 

So when I find myself being more open to doing things and being around stuff that reminds me of my ex I know that I’m less bothered by my triggers and in a better state of healing. 

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picking back up with hobbies

After a heartbreak, I tend to shut down and isolate myself. I don’t even want to leave my bed or couch in those first few days. Everything feels painful in the beginning, and I can’t even imagine going to work, let alone having the energy for my hobbies. 

Even though doing things I love, like shopping and solo lunch dates, would make me feel better during this time, I know I won’t enjoy it. 

One of the earliest indicators for me that I’m starting to heal and move on with my life is when I start making time for my favorite activities I’ve been neglecting. 

craving more human connection

I love my friends and family, but I can’t imagine being around people in the midst of a breakup. Some people need to be around their loved ones during their lowest, but I can’t imagine anything worse because I don’t like to be super vulnerable around other people.

So when I start missing people or feel lonely in my own solitude, I feel a glimpse of hope that I’m slowly getting back to myself. 

Human connection is so necessary, and we all crave it at some point. Whether it’s having a girls night with my best friends or meeting new people, being open to more experiences is a clear sign of healing. 

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no longer wanting to hear from them

Every second of every day, after things end with someone I was dating, I’m hoping they reach out or we get a chance to talk. 

Oftentimes, I miss the person who’s no longer in my life, unless they did something really disrespectful. So of course it’s natural that I want to hear from them, think about breaking no contact and wonder if they’re thinking about me.

When I start caring less about their lives and if they’ll reach out, I know for a fact that I’m healing. It’s the best place to be in. Feeling nonchalant and indifferent about a man is how I know I’m over them, so starting to slowly not obsess over them is definitely a good sign.