what to do if you like him more than he likes you
Dating is so hard because you’re constantly meeting new people and trying to find the perfect balance of mutually liking each other.
There will be times when the guy (or girl) you like doesn’t like you back, which can be soul crushing. And there will be times when someone likes you, and you don’t like them.
It’s the reality of dating, and we tend to focus on the situations where other people don’t like us back. It could be because it brings up more emotions: sadness, embarrassment, trauma, insecurities, etc.
When you do find someone you mutually like, many situations can arise that make you feel like you’re starting to like them more than they like you.
It may have reached a point where you feel like they are starting to drift away, or you may find yourself developing feelings at a faster pace than them.
Maybe they love the chase and pursued you, and now they’re being weird and distant. Or maybe you’re exploring a crush that seems to be one sided.
If you feel like you’re being clingy or more interested in a man, decenter this person, focus on detaching a little and focus on yourself.
Here’s what to do if you like them more than they like you:
decenter them & distract yourself
Sometimes when you think you like someone more than they like you, you’re putting too much weight into them being in your life.
It may feel like you can’t live without them.
Or you may simply not have enough to do to distract yourself from them.
Get a hobby. Hang out with friends more. Go do something, anything, to take up more of your free time and lower their ranking in your mind.
I can have a lot of pressure and feelings about men and dating, but I feel like I’m the most peaceful and satisfied when I’m content with being single and not looking for anyone.
Men can stress me out and make me feel all kinds of emotions.
And when I feel unbalanced feelings, I can stress myself out more and feel heightened anxiety. So one of the best things I can do is distract myself.
Guys don’t have to live in your head all day. I try to remind myself to stop letting them have so much control over my thoughts.
It’s hard to completely stop thinking about them, especially the ones that you have history with or currently dating.
But it’s possible to lessen those thoughts and take back some control.
have a conversation if it seems like a problem
There are several ways you can bring it up, in a way that feels comfortable to you. I like to keep it casual but direct.
And I encourage you to speak up and have a conversation if you think you like him more, if it seems to be a problem and if you want to give him a chance to explain.
I’ve brought this up to guys, when I feel like they are checking out or acting weird. I’ll bring it up and see how they react. So how do you bring it up?
“Hey, I feel like we’re not on the same page, and it seems you aren’t feeling this as much.”
“Hi, I sense you’re pulling away, and I’m still interested. So let me know if this is still something you want to pursue or not.”
“I think you’ve been off recently. Is everything okay, or should we take a step back?”
Think about what you want to say and if you’re comfortable and open with receiving whatever reaction they give.
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consider dating other people if you’re single
The best way for me to get over a boy or not obsess over them is to get another boy (if I’m single!)
It’s a good distraction, and it reminds you that there are more, possibly better options out there.
There will be people who like you as much as you like them, and maybe even more.
It may not be easy to find “the one” or even someone better than the last immediately, but be patient and be open minded.
And whatever you do, don’t let someone make you believe they’re the best thing to ever happen to you.
Don’t let someone make you think you’ll never do better than them.
Remember who you are, get up and be open to finding someone better.
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