affirmations to get you through being broken up with
So I got broken up with. My first relationship.
He broke up with me three days before our six month anniversary and a week before Christmas. I’ll have a lot more to say on this blog in the coming days, but I hope you all are having a better holiday season than me.
If you somehow were also blindsided, abandoned and discarded through a sudden breakup, then you’re in the perfect place.
It’s been a few days, and I don’t completely feel like I’m going to die. I am writing this on our 6 month anniversary and somehow a cup of London fog tea is making me feel “okay” for a couple hours.
I don’t know how long it will last, but I do know expressing my emotions and feelings about this breakup has been helping. A couple days in, I’m in a place where I’m not in denial, and I feel like I can process things without crying every 15 minutes.
I’m the type to need reminders and constant affirmations that I’ll be fine though. My TikTok feed right now is just breakup/no contact/avoidant attachment styles/etc.
And I write down little reminders and affirmations on sticky notes and put them in my apartment. (Shout out to the show Being Mary Jane for giving me this idea many years ago.)
So I’m listing some affirmations I hope will help me and you during this awful, awful time after being broken up with.
He chose to walk out of my life, and I do not chase someone who chose to leave.
I deserve someone who is sure about me, not someone I have to convince.
His absence is clarity, even if it hurts.
I will not beg for love that has to be forced.
Someone who wanted me would not have walked away.
I am allowed to let go of what did not choose me back.
Why would I want someone who did not want me?
I do not lose people who are meant to stay.
Being left does not mean I am unlovable.
I will not romanticize someone who chose not to show up.
Love should feel mutual, not uncertain.
I refuse to measure my worth by someone else’s inability to love me.
I am done making excuses for someone who made a decision.
If he wanted to, he would have stayed. He would’ve fought harder.
I choose myself, especially when someone else does not.
I am allowed to move on without understanding everything.
I want love that stays, not love that leaves.
I release the need to be chosen by someone who already chose to walk away.
Someone who truly wanted me would have fought to stay.
I am better off without someone who didn’t see my worth.
He left; that’s his choice, not a reflection of my value.
I do not need someone who cannot commit to me fully.
If he walked away, it only makes room for someone who will truly love me.
I refuse to waste energy on someone like him.
I am not desperate.
Love should be given freely, not begged for.
Walking away says more about him than it does about me.
I release anyone who cannot recognize my value.
If he wanted to stay, he would have made it clear.
I deserve love that is consistent.
Someone who wants me will not make me question my worth.
I am worthy of love that is as certain as it is kind.
His absence opens the door for what is truly meant for me.
