Stop breaking promises to yourself by rebuilding trust, practicing discipline, focusing on consistency and setting clear intentions for keeping your promises. 

• I do not have to carry everything today.

• Slowing down does not mean I am failing.

• I am allowed to rest, even when things feel unfinished.

Here I am questioning my worth and if this man actually loves me.

Seasonal depression is a beast that makes me have to even doubt that. 

Recenter your doubts, fears, questions and overthinking to the reality that you will be more than fine no matter what happens. The self love you have should outweigh any thing that pops up.

Stop assuming people are mad at you by reaching out, considering the proof, understanding lack of attention doesn’t mean they’re mad and considering the alternatives.

• You’re allowed to move at the pace this season asks of you.

• Your worth doesn’t change when your energy drops.

Self doubt can be difficult because it often takes aim at my self esteem and leaves me overthinking about things I should feel confident in. 

There are too many what ifs.

What if he stops liking me all of a sudden? What if I mess it up by saying the wrong thing on a random date?

We all know what boundaries are, right?

Those things we say we won’t do or allow. (But we somehow end up letting someone disrespect or take advantage of us.)

Discipline is the key to self love and bettering your health, goals and ambitions.

Stay disciplined by making your intentions clear, not waiting on motivation and recognizing your triggers. 

To practice self love on social media, post what makes you feel good, don’t obsess over interactions, limit who and what content you follow and set boundaries with your screen time.

• I’m worthy of love even when I doubt it.

• I’m allowed to be a work in progress and still be chosen.

We’ve all been in a position where we’ve had to put our needs or priorities first and upset someone else in the process.

It’s an uncomfortable feeling, but it’s crucial to get adjusted to sitting in that feeling. 

When you “have it all,” it doesn’t shield the bad moments too. I feel like I’m paralyzed by the thoughts that I’ll feel complete and full when I have everything in life.

• Not being chosen doesn’t mean something is wrong with me.

• I am learning to choose myself even when others don’t.

Whether you’re going no contact, or aren’t in the space to talk to your ex right now, here are some reminders for when you want to reach out to them.

Many people spend the holidays alone, and you can make it a peaceful, enjoyable time by creating your own traditions, erasing shame and limiting triggers.