detachment journal prompts to help you let go of someone

Love is so great, but it can end so painfully. 

There have been many times I’ve been hurt by men in my life (sadly), but somehow this most recent one may be the worst. I think it’s the most hurtful and excruciating because I know that I can’t go back. 

I know that with other guys that I’ve dated, I didn’t care as much about being their end game. I didn’t care about how I looked to them and if I crashed out or broke no contact.

But this recent one brought out a side of me that I want to protect. I want to protect the confident version of me that was respected. 

So I’m in no contact (day 5!), and it’s hard. It’s so hard, but I’m focusing on the art of detachment and journaling to emotionally detach myself from this man I truly loved.

If you’re in a similar situation or wanting to detach from someone else in your life, use the power of releasing by pouring out your feelings and emotions with these journal prompts focused on detachment and letting go. 

• What does successful detachment look like?

• What am I still holding onto, and what does it cost me to keep holding it?

• Which version of this person am I attached to: who they were, who they promised to be, or who I hoped they would become?

• What would detachment look like in my daily behavior, not just my thoughts?

• What do I gain by choosing distance instead of explanation?

• How does my body feel when I think about them?

• What patterns did I excuse that I wouldn’t accept again?

• What am I afraid will happen if I fully let go?

• In what ways did I abandon myself to maintain this person?

• What clarity have I already received, but resisted accepting?

• If I stopped waiting for them to change, what would become immediately lighter?

• What did this connection teach me about my attachment style? What did it teach me about theirs?

• What boundaries would have protected my peace sooner?

• What needs was I hoping they would meet, and how can I meet them now?

• What truths become obvious when I remove nostalgia from the story?

• What am I no longer willing to negotiate in future connections?

• What am I ready to grieve so I can move forward?

• What does choosing myself look like right now?