what to do when you don’t feel connected to yourself anymore
Feeling disconnected from myself can feel unnerving and bland.
It can feel like I’m going through the motions of life and checking things off a box without actually feeling my life go by.
Life can feel like you’re seeing things from outside your body, or that your thoughts and body aren’t connected. It’s uncanny to feel disconnected from reality, or simply not real.
You may not recognize the person you once were. You may question your life and miss the old days when you felt more like yourself.
If you’re feeling like you don’t connect with yourself anymore, you’re not alone in these thoughts and there are ways to reconnect with who you are and who you’re becoming.
how to reconnect with yourself when you feel lost
To reconnect with yourself, let go of who you once were, release unrealistic expectations for the present and find routine habits you enjoy to ground yourself.
let go of who you once were & unrealistic expectations for the present
It’s so easy to reminisce about past moments when you felt good about yourself and happy with your life. I’m currently stuck in that thought cycle of missing who I was 2-3 years ago.
I want to get back to that version of myself and feel so disconnected with my current life.
It’s not fair to constantly compare my current situation to my life a few years ago.
We’re all evolving, and it doesn’t feel good to not connect with the current version of me just because it doesn't live up to times when I was happy and feeling at my prime.
There are ups and downs in life, and it takes great self love and self awareness to connect with yourself in each hill and valley.
Let go of who you once were, and be open to figuring out your current self, even if it’s not someone you’re proud to be right now.
find small, routine habits that you enjoy
I love spending an hour or two at a coffee shop enjoying my own company. I love taking a walk on a trail on a sunny day. I love slow mornings and planned facetimes with my loved ones.
Those are mundane, everyday things that I enjoy and make me feel connected to myself.
Try to find small, routine habits you like that you can go back to when you find yourself getting lost or losing what’s familiar.
It can be a great grounding practice for when the days feel dull and bland. Life can feel static, unfamiliar and draining.
Finding little moments of joy is one way to really remind yourself that you’re alive and have things to look forward to.
spend meaningful time with yourself
We all need a little “me” time, but especially so when we’re losing sight of who we are. Try connecting with the current version of yourself, the good, the bad and the ugly.
That could look like a solo date, a day in with your favorite snacks and movies, a night on the town or whatever makes you feel happy and alive.
There are so many self care ideas out there that are guaranteed to leave you feeling relaxed, in tune with yourself and improve your self love.
Whether it’s beauty self care ideas or fun self care activities, here are some ways you can spend meaningful time with yourself: self care activities
get in tune with your body physically
Your body holds so many emotions and feelings. Tune in with what your body is telling you, and work with it to find a common ground of comfort.
That may look like going to yoga or trying meditation when you feel stuck in your head or overwhelmed with life.
Getting in tune with your body may also look like going on a run or lifting weights when you feel constrained by limits or like you’re not pushing yourself.
It can also look like finding a hobby or a new workout class that you enjoy and can feel good about yourself for doing.
Whatever you decide, getting in tune with your body physically is a great way to connect with every part of you. It allows you to become one with your being and see yourself in a new light.
