quotes for those dealing with self hate
I don’t always feel good about myself, the way I look, where I am in life, my career, etc.
There are often times I don’t like myself and find myself questioning my own self love. I think it’s important to recognize and acknowledge when you feel some level of personal dislike.
Once you start acknowledging your negative feelings toward yourself, you may start exploring the causes and triggers that you may experience that leads you to feel discontentment with yourself.
Read more: What to do on the days you don’t like yourself
Here are some inspirational quotes for those dealing with self hate that you can hopefully relate to, knowing that you’re not alone.
And I hope it motivates you to look within for ways we can band together to start loving ourselves a little more each day.
Self hate quotes:
“Self-hate takes a person only so far. Bitterness and self-loathing might spur a person towards seeking personal improvement. To live productively and happily, one must find internal peace.”
― Kilroy J. Oldster
“Perhaps the most liberating moment in my life was when I realized that my self-loathing was not a product of my inadequacy but, rather, a product of my thoughts.”
― Vironika Tugaleva
“Self-hatred is the best vehicle for making people do as they’re told because they are hungry to get approval.”
— Melinda Gebbie
“The way you think about yourself determines your reality. You are not being hurt by the way people think about you. Many of those people are a reflection of how you think about yourself.”
― Shannon L. Alder
“If you had a person in your life treating you the way you treat yourself, you would have gotten rid of them a long time ago.”
― Cheri Huber
“Yes, it is possible to hate and love someone at the same time. I do it to myself every day.”
– Rupi Kaur
“You’d think we’d have some compassion for ourselves, bound up in emotional chains the way we are, but we don’t. We’re just disgusted with ourselves because we think we should be better by now. Sometimes we make the mistake of thinking other people don’t have as much fear as we do, which only makes us more afraid.”
– Marianne Williamson
“The mind thinks thoughts that we don't plan. It's not as if we say, 'At 9:10 I'm going to be filled with self-hatred.”
― Sharon Salzberg
“Accomplishments don’t erase shame, hatred, cruelty, silence, ignorance, discrimination, low self-esteem or immorality. It covers it up, with a creative version of pride and ego. Only restitution, forgiving yourself and others, compassion, repentance and living with dignity will ever erase the past.”
― Shannon L. Alder
“The real difficulty is to overcome how you think about yourself.”
– Maya Angelou
“If the pursuit of perfection is a way to prove our worth, in the end the pursuit will only prove our imperfections.”
― Craig D. Lounsbrough
"I cannot love anyone if I hate myself. That is the reason why we feel so extremely uncomfortable in the presence of people who are noted for their special virtuousness, for they radiate an atmosphere of the torture they inflict on themselves. That is not a virtue but a vice.”
― Carl Jung
“When we don't know who to hate, we hate ourselves.”
― Chuck Palahniuk
“The only person who can pull me down is myself, and I'm not going to let myself pull me down anymore.”
― C. JoyBell C.
“We never get to love by hate, least of all by self-hatred.”
— Basil W. Maturin
Mental health emergency resources:
suicide & crisis lifeline: call or text 988
maternal mental health: call or text 1-833-TLC-MAMA (833-852-6262)
disaster distress helpline: call or text 1-800-985-5990.
in life-threatening situations, call 911 or go to the nearest emergency room
