journal prompts for decentering men
Decentering men is all about focusing on yourself and your life and not letting men take over all your thoughts.
There’s multiple ways to do that: stop searching for men when you go out, stop thinking and stalking them 24/7, prioritizing self care and solo dates, setting boundaries with your time, etc. Read more ways here: how to decenter men.
But a method I want to touch on is decentering men through journaling!
And no, I don’t mean spending your valuable time writing about the men we’re trying to decenter. Put the focus back on you with these journal prompts.
Journal prompts to decenter men:
How much of my energy today went toward thinking about a man?
In what ways have I made men the center of my attention?
What would my life look like if I put my goals, needs, and joy at the center instead?
How do I behave differently when I want to be chosen by a man? How do I want to behave instead?
How have I confused male attention with love?
What do I gain when I shift my focus from men to myself?
What do I lose when I center men in my self worth?
How can I romanticize my own life without needing anyone else in the picture?
Which hobbies, passions, or dreams have I put on hold recently?
How can I set stronger boundaries when it comes to how much space a man takes up in my mind and heart?
When have I abandoned myself to be closer to someone?
What would my future kids think if they saw me centering my life around a man?
What’s one thing I can do this week that’s just for me?
How would I spend my time if I wasn’t always thinking about being in a relationship?
In what ways do I already feel whole without a man?
How can I remind myself daily that I am already complete?
How do I define my worth outside of my relationship status?
What do I believe a man can give me that I can’t give myself? Is that belief true?
How has centering men distracted me from building the life I want?
Which friendships or connections have brought me more joy than romantic relationships?
In what ways have I downplayed my achievements to make a man feel comfortable?
What role models do I have who live fulfilling lives without centering men?
How can I set boundaries that prevent me from losing myself in a man?
Which compliments from women or myself have felt better than any from a man?
What parts of my identity have I hidden or softened for the sake of a man’s comfort?
What experiences have shown me that romantic validation is fleeting?
How can I make my life so fulfilling that romance becomes a bonus, not a goal?
What affirmations can I create that keep me centered on me?
How can I give myself the love, praise, and attention I’ve been seeking from men?
What have I learned about myself when I’ve been single?
How do I want to spend the next 6 months if romance isn’t my focus?
