Decentering men is all about focusing on yourself and your life and not letting men take over all your thoughts.
There’s multiple ways to do that: stop searching for men when you go out, stop thinking and stalking them 24/7, prioritizing self care and solo dates, setting boundaries with your time, etc. Read more ways here: how to decenter men.
But a method I want to touch on is decentering men through journaling!
And no, I don’t mean spending your valuable time writing about the men we’re trying to decenter. Put the focus back on you with these journal prompts.
journal prompts to decenter men:
How much of my energy today went toward thinking about a man?
In what ways have I made men the center of my attention?
What would my life look like if I put my goals, needs, and joy at the center instead?
How do I behave differently when I want to be chosen by a man? How do I want to behave instead?
How have I confused male attention with love?
What do I gain when I shift my focus from men to myself?
What do I lose when I center men in my self worth?
How can I romanticize my own life without needing anyone else in the picture?
Which hobbies, passions, or dreams have I put on hold recently?
How can I set stronger boundaries when it comes to how much space a man takes up in my mind and heart?
When have I abandoned myself to be closer to someone?
What would my future kids think if they saw me centering my life around a man?
What’s one thing I can do this week that’s just for me?
How would I spend my time if I wasn’t always thinking about being in a relationship?
In what ways do I already feel whole without a man?
How can I remind myself daily that I am already complete?
How do I define my worth outside of my relationship status?
What do I believe a man can give me that I can’t give myself? Is that belief true?
How has centering men distracted me from building the life I want?
Which friendships or connections have brought me more joy than romantic relationships?
self love journal prompts deck
these 52 journal prompt cards focus on four areas of growth: self love, self esteem, self care and self worth. Perfect for your morning routine, evening wind-down or whenever you need a moment to check in with yourself.
In what ways have I downplayed my achievements to make a man feel comfortable?
What role models do I have who live fulfilling lives without centering men?
How can I set boundaries that prevent me from losing myself in a man?
Which compliments from women or myself have felt better than any from a man?
What parts of my identity have I hidden or softened for the sake of a man’s comfort?
What experiences have shown me that romantic validation is fleeting?
How can I make my life so fulfilling that romance becomes a bonus, not a goal?
What affirmations can I create that keep me centered on me?
How can I give myself the love, praise, and attention I’ve been seeking from men?
What have I learned about myself when I’ve been single?
How do I want to spend the next 6 months if romance isn’t my focus?
