We’ve all been in a position where we’ve had to put our needs or priorities first and upset someone else in the process.

It’s an uncomfortable feeling, but it’s crucial to get adjusted to sitting in that feeling. 

When you “have it all,” it doesn’t shield the bad moments too. I feel like I’m paralyzed by the thoughts that I’ll feel complete and full when I have everything in life.

• Not being chosen doesn’t mean something is wrong with me.

• I am learning to choose myself even when others don’t.

Whether you’re going no contact, or aren’t in the space to talk to your ex right now, here are some reminders for when you want to reach out to them.

Many people spend the holidays alone, and you can make it a peaceful, enjoyable time by creating your own traditions, erasing shame and limiting triggers.

• I am learning to speak up even when it feels uncomfortable.

• I trust myself to handle hard conversations.

Watching someone you dated move on to someone else causes jealousy, sadness and low self esteem. Free yourself from extra pain and slower healing by limiting how much you keep up with them. 

During no contact, there can be feelings of sadness, loneliness, missing them, anger, etc.

Embrace all your feelings during no contact to fully heal and get over them.

Taking time for yourself to do less is self love because it allows for better priorities, less stress and more rest to make life more enjoyable.

Digital detoxes are time periods where we take time from our phones, devices and social media.

Set your goals, make a detox list and stay accountable with these tips.

Receiving male attention is nice validation, but don’t let it influence your decisions or mindset. And it absolutely shouldn't determine your self worth and value.  

Allow your mental health to dictate your day. Do things that feel comfortable and manageable. Try dedicating the day to self care and improving your health.

Being ambitious and successful involves rest when you feel burnout or overwhelmed.

Having it all involves taking breaks and focusing on self love and care. 

Journal your response to the negative self talk.

If you’re calling yourself mean names and criticizing yourself, think of examples that prove those things aren’t true. 

What happens when you start loving yourself is it starts to become blindingly clear that this relationship was not right for you.

Learning to love yourself is not easy, especially after a heartbreak, but it’s so rewarding to get to a place where you’re so abundantly in love with yourself.