This is your reminder that your standards aren't high enough!

We all love to feel hot, confident and thriving in self respect. It’s getting warmer, and it’s about to be summer time, so I thought it’s the perfect opportunity to level up before the season.

Healing can be hard, and I’ve stunted my own healing by going back and thinking things would change so many times.

To heal from unrequited love, remember mutual love feels insanely different, and healing happens when you live in reality instead of hope and delusion.

• Success flows more easily when I stop doubting myself.

• There’s room for me at the table.

• Discipline doesn’t have to feel harsh to be effective.

Going out alone as a single woman can feel scary and intimidating, but as long as you’re safe, you can make the most out of it.

Now, if a friend flakes or gets sick, I’m not stressed and in a rush to cancel the plans we had. I’m more open to turning into a solo experience, if and only IF it feels safe to do so. 

It’s everyone’s first time doing life. Don’t beat yourself up for mistakes or negative criticism at work.

Give yourself grace, and remember that humans make mistakes. No one’s perfect, and it’s not fair to hold yourself to unrealistic standards. 

Feeling disconnected from myself can feel unnerving and bland. 

It can feel like I’m going through the motions of life and checking things off a box without actually feeling my life go by. 

Instead of relying on closure from an ex, give yourself closure by focusing on your healing over their reasoning and relying on the reality of the relationship instead of fantasies.

You can and will move on without closure, and you’ll be a stronger, more healed person after the fact. Give yourself grace throughout the process, and remember your reasons for your desired growth and healing. 

When you prioritize being liked over self respect, you’re allowing others to take advantage of you and putting your best interest below others.

Prioritize self respect over being liked by vocalizing your boundaries, decentering the positives of being liked and putting yourself in positions to stand up for yourself. 

When you do get to a point where you can’t get someone off your mind, it can feel overwhelming, confusing and scary not knowing how they feel about you though.

Stop fantasizing a future with someone by recognizing unhealthy signs, avoid building scenarios in your head and overcoming romantic obsession.

• Lady Lady by Olivia Dean

• Thank u, next by Ariana Grande

• B.S. by Jhene Aiko ft. H.E.R.

• Her Light by Cleo Sol

Embrace being single this Valentine’s Day with self love, affirmations, journaling prompts, and solo date ideas to make the day all about you.