• How did I learn what love looks like, and how has that shaped how I treat myself?

• What do I think self love should actually look like?

• What does choosing myself look like in small, everyday moments?

Everything sucks right now, but if there’s one thing I know about myself, it’s that I will heal from this. I will move on, and it’s that promise to myself that allows me to process the awful breakup. 

• He chose to walk out of my life, and I do not chase someone who chose to leave.

• I deserve someone who is sure about me, not someone I have to convince.

Some people aren’t the type to lean on their friends and family in crises, and we need to stop making people feel like that’s the only way to deal with a breakup. 

I wanted him to choose me. I wanted him to let me in and trust me to know what he’s struggling with.

“You’re not behind in life. There’s no schedule or timetable that we all must follow. It’s all made up. Wherever you are right now is exactly where you need to be.”

― Emily Maroutian

Stop breaking promises to yourself by rebuilding trust, practicing discipline, focusing on consistency and setting clear intentions for keeping your promises. 

• I do not have to carry everything today.

• Slowing down does not mean I am failing.

• I am allowed to rest, even when things feel unfinished.

Here I am questioning my worth and if this man actually loves me.

Seasonal depression is a beast that makes me have to even doubt that. 

Recenter your doubts, fears, questions and overthinking to the reality that you will be more than fine no matter what happens. The self love you have should outweigh any thing that pops up.

Stop assuming people are mad at you by reaching out, considering the proof, understanding lack of attention doesn’t mean they’re mad and considering the alternatives.

• You’re allowed to move at the pace this season asks of you.

• Your worth doesn’t change when your energy drops.

Self doubt can be difficult because it often takes aim at my self esteem and leaves me overthinking about things I should feel confident in. 

There are too many what ifs.

What if he stops liking me all of a sudden? What if I mess it up by saying the wrong thing on a random date?

We all know what boundaries are, right?

Those things we say we won’t do or allow. (But we somehow end up letting someone disrespect or take advantage of us.)

Discipline is the key to self love and bettering your health, goals and ambitions.

Stay disciplined by making your intentions clear, not waiting on motivation and recognizing your triggers. 

To practice self love on social media, post what makes you feel good, don’t obsess over interactions, limit who and what content you follow and set boundaries with your screen time.

• I’m worthy of love even when I doubt it.

• I’m allowed to be a work in progress and still be chosen.